When you place the world on your shoulders, you give away your power and diminish ‘others’.
You are all taught to place the world upon your shoulders… To carry the weight of your friends, your family and those that appear down trodden is the burden given each one as they graduate into being ‘good’ people. But such goodness is only an extraneous effort to counter the ‘badness’ unconsciously held. Who would admit to such? Only those truly ready to release the chains of societal bondage.
Conformity creates a sea of do-gooders, either for the sake of self-value, the need to be seen or to distract from ones own pain that eventually must be dealt with. When we hand out, help or try to alleviate another’s issues, we are actually holding an energy that keeps them in that place… mostly for ones own need to be needed.
I often see healers, teachers, mothers, and servers exhausted, depleted, taking on weight or illness purely because they are so attached to the ‘other’ changing, healing, learning or doing better. That very attachment is our codependency. We need them to be where they are in order to feel worthy, have purpose and something to fight for. And because we need them to be there… we keep ourselves locked up as well, never fully being free to feel the joy and lightness of being.
You must understand that your only purpose with anyone or anything is to remain in a state of inspiration and creativity. If it is filling you up for your own sake, then the energy is clear for the other to stand in their power. Regardless of who we are, what modality is practiced, or how smart we think we are, the only one who can change, Fix or heal the other… is the other. We are the space and the presence for them to choose.
See others as capable. Model to them inner authority and self power. Don’t dupe them or yourself into believing that you have power to heal them … only they can do that. Your need to believe you are their savior is your need to feel significant. The truth is ‘your presence is enough’. You need do nothing. You just being present is what is required.